Thursday, July 10, 2014

a few little ways to keep your marriage alive as a mama

One Year and Beyond is back!!  We just couldn't stay away from this awesome toddler series.  We've gotten so much positive response so far.  Motherhood can be difficult especially with a toddler at home.  So we're here to talk toddler issues, mom to mom.  We've got a great group of mamas who are offering their advice on getting through those challenging times with their child.  Be sure to check out their blogs and then link up your own post on the topic with us below!


Before you have a baby it is easier to to spend time with your husband. You don't have to plan around when you can find a baby-sitter or when bed time is, you can just go out on a whim [as I'm sure you all know]. After the baby comes it takes more planning and [probably] happens less frequently. In truth, we've never really been the couple that goes out on lots of dates, even before a baby. We were happy to stay home and watch a movie, read a book, go on a walk... just little things. 

And now, we are no different, and just maybe a little bit worse. In fact, when I told Landon what I was writing about today, he laughed a big fat, "Ha!" It's bad 

Having said that and with the disclosure of you knowing that I'm not an expert on this at all, there are a few things we do to spend time with each other and continue date each other, even after having a baby. 

- Have a date night in. After you put the little one[s] down for bed have dinner together and watch a movie or something. We usually have pizza on Friday nights and watch a movie we get from the library [you can do these dates on the cheap if you want :]. 

- If you have family around see if they wouldn't mind watching the little one so you can go out to a restaurant. I'm sure most of the time they will be all to happy to babysit for a bit. 

- Sit on your back [or front] porch while you read. Sometimes it's just spending that time together that is so important. Landon has a lot of work to do, so sometimes he'll just be working on that while I'm reading, but it's still time we have to be together -though I'm bad about being quiet the whole time.

- Go to bed at the same time and read a devotional together and pray. This is something we used to do all the time and have been slacking on with a busy student life schedule, but so important just the same. I really think that praying together is especially important and can bring you all closer together. 

And there you have my very few and very little ideas of spending quality time with your hubby. Hopefully they are a little bit helpful... but really, I'm hoping you all have some awesome ideas and link up or comment [or both] and share what you do! 

I'm so glad this link up is starting up again, and am excited for all the things we can share and learn from each other! yay :)

July 10:  Keeping your marriage alive with a toddler
July 17:  Favorite summer toddler activities
July 24:  Helping Your Toddler to Communicate (Words, emotions, etc.)
July 31:  Dealing with Separation Anxiety
Aug 7:    Car Trip Necessities
Aug 14:  Deciding when the time is right for baby #2 (and/or how to handle these questions)
Aug 21:  Tricks for eating out with your toddler
Aug 28:  Feeling confident as a mom (How to feel this way, Your struggle with, etc.)


Jamie @ The Jamie's + 1 said...

I LOVE this link up!! Great advice, thanks so much for sharing!

Alisha said...

This link up is great, always so encouraging and uplifting to know you're not alone.

Heather Leigh @ Like a Morning cup of coffee said...

Love this girl. Such great tips especially the going to bed together and read a devo part. When Leon and I can do that I always feel so connected to him. :)

Leah @ Everyday Love said...

Going to bed at the same time is so important. I used to work late (from home) almost every night and it definitely took a toll. I've seen such great changes since i started going to bed with my husband and waking up earlier to get my work done.

kelseylynae said...

Communication! Verbalizing expectations! Giving the other one an opportunity to do a hobby they love on their own! Eating meals together!

Mostly the communication though. :)

Ashley @ Words About Waverly said...

Love the date night in idea, we need to be better about that!! :)

Lauren said...

Great advice! We were actually much better about date night when Elyse was a newborn compared to now...she enjoys things so much now so we just really love to take her with us!

We try really hard to go to bed at the same time...even if one or the other of us isn't quite ready!

Courtney B said...

Yes to devotional and prayer time together!! We have been pretty good about reading our scriptures together, but we try to do that with Mia around so that she can get used to seeing us "study" (because how in depth can you get while studying with a toddler running around? ha!) but we really need to set aside time to do it together, just the two of us, and pray! It is crazy how much readjusting we've had to do as we figure out new routines as Mia grows!